In Love “Divinely” – Experiencing Heaven on Earth
What is Love? I became obsessed with this question, which ultimately led me into the relationship and consciousness of what I call being In Love “Divinely”…a consciousness and way of being that is FREE of fear, emotional pain, and mental suffering.
Can you imagine that? Being in Love for always and forever with out expectations, agendas, anticipation or attachments… only pure Unconditional Love. Seems outrageous doesn’t it?
Yes, unfortunately, to most it does.
I was one of the most. From the age of 17 to 47, I was in and out of love like a roller coaster. Constantly riding the high of being in love and the low of falling out. I was a hopeless romantic. I absolutely loved being in love more than anything in life; although, I was a consistent failure at staying in a long term committed relationship.
My family life was definitely not the best model for a healthy loving relationship. I grew up in a home where there was constant drama, drugs, alcohol, and physical, mental, emotional, and sexual abuse. My parents divorced when I was 8 due to my father’s extra marital affairs, and my father abandoned the family with no support; leaving me with gaping wounds filled with fear of abandonment and deep trust issues.
My true nature to just be in love with life, with the desire to explore and experience all it has to offer, was completely invalidated by my early childhood… and my understanding of what love is, and how it is expressed and experienced in relationships was definitely aberrated.
I found myself only being attracted to the men that would validate my insecurities and fear. I was constantly unconsciously sabotaging any chance of a long term committed intimate union. I got to the point where I realized I couldn’t even trust and therefore love myself.
I also noticed I was not alone in my inability of enjoying long term loving relationships. Actually, it was a very rare occurrence to meet people that are experiencing a loving and beautiful union with another, others, or even themselves.
Most of us are filled with fear and pain from past relationships. We put on a protective shield over our hearts, renounce our feelings, stop trusting others and ourselves, and continue to experience love through the lens of fear. Fear is what causes control issues, which leads to having conditions on our love. Our relationships are laced with expectations, agendas, anticipation and attachments. Which inevitably end up causing strife.
We are also devastated by the shock when we learn as children that love is conditional. By the time we are 8, we know quite well that the beautiful flow of love from our families, friends, teachers, religious leaders, and so on… is conditionally based on how we behave. We learn in our religions that if we do not live by the teachings and rules, we lose the grace of God. We start to believe and become fearful that the exchange and connection with God/Source and all others can be severed. Our innate knowing that this world we live in IS ALL ABOUT THE CONNECTION, EXCHANGE AND EXPRESSION OF LOVE, is invalidated by the adults… our role models. We learn from them that love is not given freely between each other, it is something you have to earn.
The great news is… it is absolutely impossible to lose your connection to the Divine within all that is, and your innate nature for the desire to give and receive love. No matter what we have been through, we all want to feel connected to others and to feel like we belong. We want to be understood, valued, appreciated, accepted, respected, and unconditionally loved.
I spent 30 years learning and using the next best method to help myself and others remove past conditioning, unwanted programed beliefs and emotional blocks, and replace them with healthy, empowering, and natural loving way of being.
I got very serious about the question “What Is Love”? I decided to ask at least one person of every age between 5 to 100, what they thought love is. I got so many varied answers based on the stage in life a person was experiencing. But one thing that was the same, was the underlying essence of all their answers… LOVE WAS ANYTHNG THAT AROUSED THE FEELING OF A SOUL CONNECTION!
I felt that connection with my children, friends, students, clients, being in nature, and so on… but a deep intimate bonding with all my being and life partner was still eluding me.
Based on my understanding at the time, I thought the ultimate love relationship was with a soul-mate. So I made a very clear announcement to the Universe that I am willing and ready to have the most glorious soul-mate love relationship that is equally experienced physically, emotionally, mentally, soulfully, and spiritually.
Sure enough, I attracted the most amazing relationship. I truly felt like I was in Heaven. I was walking on clouds… floating in air. I was totally in love. I exuded love. Love was all I could think about. Love was all I could see. My capacity for love expanded more than I could even imagine. We connected and shared ourselves on all levels. The level of intimacy was to the point that we felt we knew each other inside and out. We both revealed more than we ever have. We totally and unconditionally loved and accepted each other. I finally got to have what I fantasized about all my life. The love described in poetry. Love stories of the movies, songs and greatest books.
Then guess what…. it had to end. It was not an ugly ending, but it definitely threw me for a loop. What is interesting is how I dealt with it. While we were talking… and yes I was crying on and off, something happened… I had an epiphany. My tears and sadness was not about losing him, I realized I was being invited into the next stage/level of Love, and in order for me to embrace and accept the next level, I have to completely let go of the last one.
Well the last one was amazing! Isn’t that most of ours ultimate fantasy? I was crying about letting go of my “fantasy” of love.
I knew what the next level was. My soul always knew. I was being invited into this realm all of my life. We all are… in every moment. We just very conveniently ignore the messages from our soul, like junk-mail on our doorstep. Something we will look at later, when the pile gets so overwhelming we are forced to.
I feared this stage more than death. The one thing worse than death was to be alone, not understood, and ridiculed. That’s exactly what my personality/ego self believed would happen.
My ego also knew that to enter the next level of love, means I will also have to step up to the final stage of surrender. Surrendering my ego’s ideas, beliefs, and desires for love, and choose to merge with the realm of Divine Love… a love that is beyond myself or a soul-mate. It is an all-encompassing love. The love of everyone, everything. It is when the ego makes the ULTIMATE CHOICE to fall in love with the Divine of ALL THAT IS… EQUALLY.
That amazing relationship I experienced provided me with the opportunity to learn how to trust a man, trust myself, open my heart, allow myself to receive and give love freely with no expectations, agendas, anticipation, or attachments. I was able to expand my capacity for love and experience what it is like to love with all my being… unconditionally. It was my initiation into the next level of love – In Love “Divinely”.
When I made that very clear announcement to the Universe that I am WILLING and READY to have the MOST GLORIOUS soul-mate relationship… I got exactly what I asked for and WAY MORE than I was able to conceive at the time of asking.
I was gifted with the chance to give and receive love UNCONDITIONALLY, and to EXPERIENCE the CONNECTION with the DIVINE in MYSELF and EVERYONE and EVERYTHING else. The connection all of our souls yearn to remember and feel. The feeling of being In Love “Divinely”. The EXPERIENCE OF BEING IN HEAVEN ON EARTH. The knowing it is absolutely impossible to be alone. The remembrance that we are all truly connected within the Source Field of Divine love… within our souls.
Mahatma Gandhi said it perfectly in these words:
“Scientists tell us that without the presence of the cohesive force amongst the atoms that comprise this globe of ours, it would crumble to pieces and we cease to exist; and even as there is cohesive force in blind matter, so must there be in all things animate and the name for that cohesive force among animate beings, is Love. We notice it between father and son, between brother and sister, friend and friend. But we have to learn to use that force among all that lives, and in the use of it, consists our knowledge of God. Where there is love there is life”– GANDHI
I love that… “WHERE THERE IS LOVE THERE IS LIFE”. Love truly is the life force within all things. Love is not an emotion, it is an omnipotent resonance. It is the source of all things. It is the connective field of all that is. It is the Divine… it is God
We all are natural generators of the electromagnetic force field of Love. It is not something we have to get from another. It is WHY we exist… to express and share our own unique creative expression of Love. It’s time to remember who we are and why we are here. Our only purpose is to BE DIVINE LOVE, and share it with ALL THAT IS.
Can you imagine if all people on this planet are In Love “Divinely”? Sharing, giving, and expressing unconditional love to themselves and everyone and everything equally… for always and forever? I can… and I call this HEAVEN ON EARTH!
You are invited into the realm of Being In Love “Divinely”, and Experiencing Heaven on Earth.
Please R.S.V.P “Yes” A.S.A.P
Cher Hayes has committed the rest of her life to help as many people as possible be In Love “Divinely”. She is currently engrossed in writing her book, In love “Divinely”, and offers Divine Love Guidance Sessions and Initiation Induction Sessions for Individuals and groups. She traveled the world to learn from some of the greatest spiritual teachers, and studied with the brilliant leaders in Mind Body Medicine; she received multiple certifications within this field. She studied Psychology at University of Hawaii. She has been a Mind, Body, Spirit Therapist and Educator for over 25 years. She owned a Yoga School, is a licensed Massage Therapist, facilitated and founded a Divorce Center for Women, and owned a Re-Programming Center and Safe House for Women and Children.